Salted Caramel Coconut Cream Pie

9- inch refrigerated (frozen or homemade deep dish pie shell, baked and cooled)

butter

flaked sweetened coconut

roughly broken pecan pieces

[8] oz Neufchatel cream cheese (softened)

[14] oz sweetened condensed milk

pure vanilla extract

fresh sweetened whipped cream or frozen whipped topping (thawed and divided)

dulce de leche or thick caramel ice cream topping

coarse sea salt [optional]